Getting Angry?

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Then it is time to learn more about anger and anger management.

Are you:

Unable to control your anger?

Blowing a fuse in the traffic?

Unable to process frustrations calmly?

Hurting the people you love?

 

Buddha said:

“You will not be punished for your anger,

You will be punished by your anger.”


Anger is a part of the sympathetic nervous system which oversees our flight fight reactions. In a primal way we needed it to save ourselves from danger, to boost our energy levels, to help us fight or run, but in a suffocated way we now use it to gauge when our values have been violated, or to control our self-respecting boundaries. We also use it to vent our frustration or when we feel overwhelmed due to stressors in our environment. The reason why so many people have problems controlling it is because they allow their body to take control and immediately react to a perceived threat. So, anger is a safety mechanism from our caveman days which no longer serves us.

When you become extremely angry you are no longer able to think clearly and process your thoughts logically. Your thoughts and feelings start at the brain stem enter the emotional brain and there you react. The thoughts and feeling do not even make it through the prefrontal cortex or logical brain. So there is no reasoning of the reactions.

Let’s take for example whilst driving another driver cuts you off and you become angry. It’s not the act of the other person which makes you angry. It’s the way your mind is processing the act. You are actually giving somebody else control over your thinking and emotions at this point.

Anger is a choice. Let’s say your child has been gigging or skipping school for 3 months, you find out about it and you are suddenly angry. It wasn’t the gigging which caused you to be angry because if it was, you would be angry 3 months ago. It’s the knowing of the act and the way your mind has processed that act which made you angry. If you didn’t know about it then you could not be angry, right?

Anger is damaging to your health. The Mental Health foundation stated that long term and intense anger has been linked with mental health problems including depression, anxiety and self-harm. It is also linked to poor physical health as well. So anger management is crucial to your physical health as well. 


An old Chinese proverb:

“If you are patient in one moment of anger,

You will escape 100 days of sorrow
 

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The physiological cues of anger: 

 

  • Clenching your jaws or grinding your teeth

  • Headache

  • Stomachache

  • Increased and rapid heart rate

  • Sweating, especially your palms

  • Feeling hot in the neck/face

  • Shaking or trembling

  • Dizziness

Emotionally you may feel:

  • Like you want to get away from the situation

  • Irritated

  • Sad or depressed

  • Guilty

  • Resentful

  • Anxious

  • Unable to talk to a person for extended periods of time

  • Like striking out verbally or physically

Also, you may notice that you are:

 

  • ​Rubbing your head

  • Pacing 

  • Getting sarcastic

  • Losing your sense of humour

  • Acting in an abusive or abrasive manner 

  • Craving a drink, a smoke or other substance that relax you

  • Raising your voice

  • Beginning to yell, scream, or cry

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Anger is also damaging to relationships and society. I’d like to mention a story from the book called “Fathers who dare, win” by Ian Grant.

 

There was once a very upset boy who was constantly angry. His father gave him a hammer, a bag of nails and took him over to the backyard wooden fence. The father said that every time the boy got angry, he was to hammer a nail into the fence. The first day the boy hammered 37 nails into the fence, then next day 20 and the next 10.

One day the boy went to his dad and said that he didn’t get angry that day. The father took him outside to the fence and said that each day he didn’t get angry he was to remove one nail. Gradually the boy pulled out all the nails from the fence even though there were a couple of angry days in between.

When the boy had removed all the nails from the fence, he went back to his father telling him of his success. The proud father took his boy back to the fence and showed him all the scars from where the nails were. The father then said: “Each time we react with anger we leave scars like these nails did, that may never ever heal.”

Well I have a solution.

A solution that has transformed many clients from being unable to control their frustrations and outbursts to relaxed and calm communicators.

I am currently running a new 4 Sesson Anger Management Programme. And I wanted to share information on the benefits and details of what will be taught and covered. If you are interested in registering for this programme, simply contact me directly.

Anger Management 4 Sesson Programme

The Benefits to you

  • Notice the onset of anger

  • Acquire techniques to head off the onset of anger before it takes hold

  • Be able to calmly respond instead of immediately reacting to situations

  • Examine your destructive beliefs and find positive alternatives

  • Find alternatives to substance use when severely frustrated

  • Move from resentment to acceptance

  • Express yourself assertively and not aggressively

  • Improve your communication with others

  • Better relationships

  • Learn more about behaviours which could be considered relationship or emotional abuse

  • 100% money back guarantee (if you truly follow the process and practice the techniques and they do not work for you)

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Features for you

  • Programme is one on one, currently running over Zoom.

  • One lesson fortnightly over eight weeks.

  • Each lesson is 60 minutes.

  • Lessons are adapted to suit individual concerns and needs. 

  • Your information is confidential.

  • Electronic handout at the end of each lesson.

  • You receive a weekly check in on non-lesson weeks.

  • Facilitator contactable for questions during complete program duration.

  • 100% money back Guarantee

You will also be practicing concentration, relaxation and meditation techniques to reduce your negative reactions to the stressors in your environment. These techniques will build self-awareness, emotional stability and allow your logical brain time to process your thoughts and feelings in a calm rational manner.

To get involved in this opportunity is an Investment of: = $400

4 fortnightly sessions over 8 weeks

Or pay as you come along to each session

Individual sessions available also

Gain control over your anger

Finish your journey at peace

Process your frustrations calmly

Stop hurting the people you love

 

Manage your anger NOW!!!!!!

Contact Adrian on 0405 391 110

Email: adrian@apspear.com 

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